If you’ve ever tried to change someone you’re in relationship with, you know how frustrating and exhausting it can be. So, instead… try this. Try changing yourself. When you change yourself, you can fundamentally change your relationship. Here are a few questions to ask that may help with this:
- What is more important: your relationship or your way of doing things?
- Is the way you’re responding to your partner creating collaborative atmosphere?
- If your significant other never changes, how can you alleviate your frustration over your differences?
Conflict happens in a relationship, largely because your partner is not you. They experience the world differently. To be successful in relationship, we have to communicate about our desires, frustrations, and differences in a collaborative way and in a way that honors one another. Doing that will change the relationship for the better. Think about this in terms of your relationship, or even your job: change that is forced upon you rarely feels good, but change that you’re a part of can be exciting because it’s often a form of growth.
In addition to hosting mornings on B105.7, Sean Copeland is in school to be a therpaist. Every Tuesday morning around 8:20, he does Tune Up Tuesday — a little nugget you can use to “tune up” your relationship.
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