If you’ve ever experienced frustration in your relationship (that’s all of us), this week’s Tune Up Tuesday is for you. Tune Up Tuesday is a little nugget you can ue to tune up your relationship Tuesday mornings around 8:20 on B105.7.
Here’s what’s usually behind frustration – expectation.
Think about it. What you’re expecting from this person isn’t lining up with what you’re experiencing…and so, you’re frustrated.
If you want to unpack it, here are a few questions you can ask yourself:
- Where did this expectation come from?
- Is it realistic or reasonable? Think about a friend who maybe didn’t call you when you needed some encouragement. It may feel like they don’t care, but that’s likely not the case. So, you can do one of two things. You can be hurt and pull back – or you can reach out to them first and share what you’re going through. And that leads to the final question to ask yourself…
- Have you clearly communicated your expectation? There’s no room for mind reading in relationships. None. Once you communicate your expectation, it gives your partner a chance to agree to meet you or not. And even if not, that can lead to a conversation where you can come up with something that will work for both of you.
In addition to hosting mornings on B105.7, Sean Copeland is studying to be a therapist.
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