This Relationship Advice from Grandma Simply Doesn’t Work

We’ve all heard it: Never go to bed angry. It sounds noble, like the secret to a perfect relationship. But here’s the problem…

Trying to hash out a disagreement before bed often means you’re arguing when you’re emotional, defensive, and tired. And that’s a recipe for disaster.  Sleep deprivation messes with the higher functions of your brain—like reasoning, self-control, and emotional regulation. Your amygdala, the part of your brain that keeps your emotions in check, also takes a hit.

When we’re sleep-deprived, our brains either overreact to situations or fail to react at all because our neurotransmitters aren’t firing properly. Translation: your late-night argument is probably turning into a landmine of misunderstandings and drama that’ll only blow up bigger the next day.

You need sleep to think clearly, communicate effectively, and actually solve problems. If you’re exhausted, you simply can’t resolve conflict in a healthy way.

So instead of clinging to the idea of never going to bed angry, give yourself permission to pause. Sleep on it. A fresh mind and rested emotions can turn a potential blow-up into a constructive conversation.  Your relationship—and your sleep schedule—will thank you.

In addition to hosting The Sean Show on B105.7, Sean Copeland is a therapist at Evolve Therapy in Greenwood.