In addition to hosting mornings on B105.7, I work in the afternoon as a therapist (at Evolve Therapy in Greenwood, IN). On Tuesday mornings I share a nugget you may be able to use to sort of “tune up” a relationship in your life. This morning — when seeking outside counsel might be a bad idea.
It is not uncommon for me to see someone who is experiencing some sort of relationship distress and they’ll say… “well, my friend says I should do this. My hairdresser says I should do that. My mom thinks this.” We spend so much time sort of silencing these other voices. Most of them mean well, but when we’re in a stressing situation we already have so much noise going on in our own head. We then add to it by getting friends, our hairdresser, and whoever else involved. While these folks mean well, they also have motives and probably a bias or two. That’s just one of the reasons talking to a therapist can be so helpful as opposed to counsel from the peanut gallery. Your relationship is between you and your partner. It doesn’t require approval or understanding from your best friend, your sister, or your mom.