Eric’s Blog

Do you find yourself having interactions like this in your home – “How was your day?” “Good. How was yours?” “It was good.” And then you go on with your day. Asking a partner, your child or a friend, how there day was isn’t a bad thing, but when it becomes rote or mindless, maybe […]

Whether it’s online or in person, people can be very in your face with their opinions and frankly, our world does a lousy job of navigating differences in thoughts, ideas and beliefs. As we get closer to another election, now more than ever being able to handle a different opinion is going to be crucial […]

Do you ever find yourself saying things like … “I just don’t want to fight anymore.” “I’m tired of just scraping by.” “I don’t want to disappoint them.” Nobody wants any of these things.  But did you notice all of these phrases are put in such a way of things you don’t want or want […]

Looking for insight into someone’s personality?  Look no further than their favorite ice cream.  Breyer’s surveyed 2,000 people to get a read on the likes and traits of people who prefer strawberry, vanilla or chocolate ice cream. If you like strawberry ice cream you like doing laundry, listen to jazz music, and enjoy a good […]

In my previous blog, I touched on one of two key parts of better communication – assertiveness. Today I wanted to focus on the other important element to communicating with others – active listening. Active listening is the ability to let your partner know you understand by restating what they said and acknowledging their feelings. […]

As a private practice counselor, I work with a lot of couples. And while there can many things to address in a relationship, probably the biggest over-arching challenge to overcome is lack of healthy communication. Our ability to communicate with anyone, but especially someone we love, comes down to two key areas – assertiveness and […]

For many reasons, we are often afraid or too proud to ask for help.  But we all need help from time to time, so it’s not only okay to ask for help, but we need to. Today, I want to focus on the idea of offering help.  As you probably know, it’s not that people […]

Do you want to resolve a conflict or do you want to be right?  This was part of a discussion I had with someone earlier this week.  It was a reminder of we often argue and deal with problems.  If we are honest, we often just want to be “right” versus solving a problem. That’s […]

Are you a thermometer or are you a thermostat?  Both devices deal with temperature, but their uses are different. A thermometer simply reflects the temperature, but a thermostat actually determines the temperature.  A thermostat can be adjusted and suited to the environment and the needs of the room. How about you – in your workplace, […]

Finding someone to date can be as close as your phone! But while dating apps have made looking for love easier, they could also be hurting you, too. There have been several studies that show a link between dating apps and loneliness, which is ironic given that many go to the apps to be less […]