Tune Up Tuesday! In addition to hosting mornings on B105.7. I work in the afternoons as a therapist and on Tuesday mornings, I’ll share a nugget or two that you can perhaps use to “tune up” a relationship in your life or even your own mental health.
Let’s talk about the first thing you should do when you feel icky feelings… you’re annoyed, you’re hurt, you’re uncomfortable – what next? Well, you’ve already taken a first step of pausing to figure out how you’re really feeling. Then sometimes we let our feelings dictate what’s next. It should be the other way around. We need to be masters of our feelings as opposed to the other way around.
One way to do that is through something called self-soothing.
Just because you’re feeling something uncomfortable doesn’t mean you have to share it or at least not immediately. Be willing to sit with it, take deep breaths, do some positive self-talk, and figure out what you want to do with the emotions you’re feeling. What do you want to accomplish? All they’re doing is signaling that something doesn’t feel right to you. Taking small steps to self-soothe will not only reduce your own discomfort or stress, but it’ll make you better equipped to share your emotions in a helpful way.