In addition to hosting mornings on B105.7, I work in the afternoon as a therapist (at Evolve Therapy in Greenwood, Indiana) and on Tuesday mornings, I share a nugget you may be able to use to “tune up” a relationship in your life. Sharing a “tune up” every day this week leading up to Valentine’s Day.
Your tune up today is to focus on small, daily gestures. Yes, big gifts or experiences can be exciting… but smaller daily gestures turn caring into a habit as opposed to an event. Small daily gestures may include bringing your significant other a cup of coffee, sending a random thinking of you text, etc. If you have trouble thinking of daily gestures, it could be helpful to have a dialogue with your partner about behaviors and gestures that make them feel cared for…and vice-versa.
And I’ll say this, if you have specific expectations around Valentine’s Day gestures, just communicate them. Otherwise today’s expectations may become tomorrow’s resentments.