You may need to put your spouse in time out. That’s this week’s Tune Up Tuesday – a little nugget you can use to tune up your relationship every Tuesday morning around 8:20 on B105.7.
Now, you don’t actually need to put each other in time out, but a mutually agreed upon time out can be helpful. Let’s say it’s late in the evening, you both are tired… and your discussion quickly turns to an argument. That would be a great time to call a timeout. “Honey, I’m wiped. Can we call a timeout on this until tomorrow?”
Other examples of when it’s good to call a timeout – if you realize you need professional help to get a resolution. Personally, I think you should seek outside help before problems arise. Same reason you don’t wait until your engine blows up to get the oil changed. Another example for when a timeout works is when the argument gets too heated or when criticisms start to get personal.
If you call a timeout, be clear about when you’ll come back together and try again. Maybe it’s 15 minutes, maybe it’s a day. The important thing is to address the issue at hand after you’ve had some time to cool off and maybe get some rest.
In addition to hosting mornings on B105.7, Sean is studying to be a therapist.
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